“It’s not you, its me”
We find it so easy to blame ourselves.
To tell the other person that they didn’t do anything wrong, rather, we are the problem.
It’s easier than saying “you made me feel like an imposter”, “you stripped away my identity”
It’s easier than admitting that you’ve changed for the worse because of them
We find it hardest to hurt the people “close” to us – family, friends, boyfriends and girls friends – and easiest to hurt the closest person of all – ourselves.
We take the blame upon us for everything:
A missed deadline, a typo in a presentation, someone being late, and someone else being sick.
Somehow it all becomes our fault, even if its completely unrelated to us.
And because we insert ourselves in every equation, every situation, we berate ourselves for being “self-obsessed” and “narcisstic”
We forget that we need updates on everything because we’re the ones who’re going to answer ahead…by choice
That we need to know everything in everyone’s life to feel included and in control
Even though we’re not built for control.
We eventually realise that we control nothing but ourselves, and everything is in our control once we control ourselves.
The illusion of outwardly control compromises not only our own happiness, but also our autonomy.
And the questions begs – if everyone is working for someone else’s happiness and according to their standard, who are we really working for?
